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Friday, July 8, 2016

20 things I've learned I've learned in my 20's


Today is my 30th birthday. I've been around the sun 30 times and today marks the beginning of my 31st trip. I'm not a huge birthday person (though I love celebrating the birthdays of others) but 30 really crept on me and it's a milestone -- and the first that makes me feel "old". I'll admit, I did spend some time bummin' about feeling old but my 20's were really good to me. && these 30 rides around the sun have taught a me a lot.

So, I'm sharing 20 little life lessons I've learned on my way to 30. 

Share any thing you thing I need to know in this new decade in the comments, will ya? xx

1. Trust the experiences of those who live them and trust not your perceptions of those experiences. Until you've lived them, you're not the authority. I mean this so to generally respect the people around you but given the tragedies of this week I encourage you to keep this in mind as we discuss the oppression our brothers and sisters of color face everyday. 

2. Happiness is a moving target. A friend told me this as I struggled with my decision to move to DC and I've held it close to my heart ever since. What makes you happy changes and moves. Follow your heart to continue to pursue it,

3. Forgive and forget or forgive and don't forget but either way let it go. Let go of the hate, hurt, disappointment, whatever in your heart. It's toxic and will hurt you far more in the long run than the original misdeed.

4. You get what you get and you don't get upset. What you have is plenty and perfect. Let go of this grass is always greener idea.

5. Surround yourself with people that lift you up. There's no space or time in your life for people that don't help bring you higher.

6. Friendships evolve and change and friends come in and out of your life. It's okay for a friendship to sunset. It doesn't take away from the importance of the relationship or what that relationship has meant for your life.

7. If he's into you, he'll text you back. If he doesn't, he's just not that into you. It's really that simple.

8. Be your own biggest advocate. Don't wait for (or let!) anyone else be that person. This is important for both your personal and professional lives and is a lesson I recently learned first hand professionally. Its far more empowering and worthwhile to be your own advocate.

9. Threading is better than waxing.

10. Things happen when they're meant to happen. Everyone's life moves at a different pace and you can't compare yourself to someone else's timing.  Trust the universe's timing.

11. Say no to the people/places/things that don't add value to your life. Learning to say no is one of the most empowering lessons you can learn in your 20's. And it just feel so good.

12. Learn to listen. And then actually do it.

13. Love is awesome and its hard and its amazing and its tough work (then rinse and repeat). But its really, really worth it. And if it's not worth it, let it go ASAP.

14. Ask for help. It doesn't make you look weak or less than. It makes you look taller and wiser. 

15. (My) Mom is (almost) always right. I'm not sure I'm ready to put it in writing that she's always right. Perhaps, that's something I can work on in my 30's.

16. The universe has infinite pathways. Let this encourage and excite you. More importantly, don't ignore all of the doors open to stick to one path.

17. Because everyone is on their own pathway, live and let live.  Don't judge because someone's pathway is different than yours. March to the beat of your own drum and respect that everyone else marches to their own, too.

18. Make your bed everyday. It's really worth it to come to home to a kept space.

19. You're as strong as you say and believe you are. So believe you're a body builder on Muscle Beach :)

20.  Be kind. Seriously, just be a nice  f@%$ing person.


Friday, June 24, 2016

hello weekend!


Happy Friday, Friends!

This week has absolutely flown by! We're wrapping up the end of the fiscal year at work, wedding RSVP's are trickling in and the to-do list is building faster than I'm crossing things off (spoiler: I'm not crossing much off at all...). I'm telling myself that I'm looking forward to a weekend of nothing but deep down, I know its time to start crossing of to-dos. 

In addition to (maybe) crossing off to-do's, I'm trying my first Orange Theory fitness class, shooting with Kristyn, and going to see the Dixie Chicks! Some friends and I bought found tickets on Groupon 6 months ago and I'm so excited! How random, right?

Thanks to Monica, I'm a juice addict. I found this adorable shop in Philadelphia last week while traveling for work and wanted to spend all day there!

These link dump posts have been pretty pervasive in the blog world so I'm thinking about the best way to share some of the interesting articles I've read or a few products that have caught my eye. Let me know if there is something you want to see (or you definitely don't want to see).
  • Like every other basic betch out there, I am obsessed with LaCroix. Read about how it gained popularity and landed in all of our fridge's overnight. Side note: where can I get this "LaCroix over boys" shirt?
  • Here is a Chloe dupe for $28 if you're not into paying $1800+ for a trendy bag.
  • Does anyone bullet journal? What do you think? Fill me in!
  • I'm trying my first Orange Theory class this weekend and I'm really excited. I get bored really easily with workouts so I'm looking forward to trying something different. I've heard great things and am hoping to fall in love. There really is no motivation like a wedding dress but you know what, people didn't call me Shallow hAllio in college for nothing..
  • Flatforms are growing on me. Why oh why?
  • Speaking of why oh why, why are bridal separates (re: the fancy word from crop tops) a thing? :(
  • I have a selfish request: I need wedding shoes. Married people -- can you send me suggestions! I want something ~3 inches but comfortable. Did you switch out after the ceremony? 


What are you up to this weekend? Hope its a good one! xx

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

closet staples, volume 2: shoes

&& we're back for our second installment of closet staples. A few weeks ago I shared with you my favorite pieces of outerwear and that are the pieces I reach for to wear over and over. This post is all about shoes. And coincidentally -- I swear I didn't plan it this way -- a few of the shoes I consider my closet MVP's I also wore in a few out of the outwear outfits. Just goes to show you that some bloggers do wear things multiple ways. :)

First up...

\\ 1. S T R A P P Y   H E E L S //

I bought these at Zara a few seasons ago and never looked back. While they are tall and took a few wears to break in, they are my go to dressy sandal. They are easily dressed up or down and make for the perfect wedding shoe. The nude color elongates my leg and matches everything. You cannot go wrong with a nude strappy sandal.


\\ 2. L E O P A R D   F L A T S //

Say it with me: leopard is a neutral. Leopard loafers or flats are the easiest way to add a little jazz to an outfit while still maintaining a neutral color pairing. I love these driving loafers but also own two three other pairs of leopard print shoes. Match them with denim as seen here or with black cigarette pants and crisp white shirt at work. I promise the possibilities are endless. I've listed a ton of pairs here all under $75 so they wont break the bank.



\\ 3. C O M F O R T A B L E   S N E A K E R S //

I was a smidge late to the athleisure trend but am so glad I jumped on board. Any excuse to wear comfortables shoes all day is one that works for me. I easily go from working out in these Nike's to running errands. Comfortable and chic is a no brainer, right?


\\ 4. L I G H T   W E D G E S //


Summer wedges and espadrilles can be a bit tricky for me. I have stocky legs and clunky shoes can only make them look even more like tree stumps. I got this pair from Payless of all places (shockingly!) and they are honestly some of the most comfortable shoes I own. I can wear them all weekend running errands or out to dinner. They are easily worn pants, shorts, and dresses alike. Finding wedges that won't overwhelm your legs can be tough but lucky for you, I've already done the work for you.

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What shoes do you reach for the most in your closet?